Help Me Help You

As I continue on with my journey of sobriety and by writing some sweet ass blogs, a handful of people have reached out to me with things like. “How did you do it?” or “ I have a drinking problem and reading your blog helped me realize it.” To me, this is great! It tells me that people are taking to heart the things that I have shared and are realizing that they are not alone. With all the people who have contacted me though, im sad to say very few have kept in contact with me and I am sure they may of thought by admitting they had a problem, they were ok and that was the end of it for them. So I will write some more in hopes of maybe helping at least one person out there.


One of the simplest of things that I have learned is that if I don't put alcohol into my body, I don't get drunk. This is one of those easy things to say and harder than hell to follow. At the end of the day though no matter what other things that I do and no matter how hard it was to get through the cravings, if I don't actually pick it up I won’t restart the cycle of addiction. I basically tell myself that I am not an alcoholic until I take a drink. I don’t know if that is the best way to look at it, but that is the way I feel. I don’t even want to know what would happen if I took a drink and I really have no interest in finding out. I remember what it was like to be drunk and I was miserable. I quit drinking for fun years before I became sober and if something isn’t fun anymore why do it? Many will say because they cannot stop and I believe that they are serious 100% because I felt that way once. I am here to say that it is possible and that sometimes recovery is not always graceful, but as long as you keep fighting it doesn't matter.


I have learned that helping someone through addiction recovery is a great way to help people through this rough period in their lives. Addiction takes over someone's mind to the point that they cannot imagine living without the substance. The substance fills a void in their lives that is ever expanding and when dependent on a substance people will lie when confronted about their problems. This is because they are ashamed of themselves and they don't think they have a problem, they don't want to stop, or they are in straight up denial. Dealing with an addict is like dealing with a spoiled child. They will lie, steal, throw tantrums, and do other immature acts to enable them to get the substance they want. It is crazy looking back at some of the things I did or said just to get some booze in me. It makes me sick to even think about.


Addiction recovery starts when the person who is dependent upon substances wants to quit themselves. I know from experience that trying to quit for someone else is pointless, it absolutely has to be for yourself. Addiction recovery is much easier when people have the support of friends and family members. Nobody wants to see you hurting, especially not your loved ones. If any of this sounds all too familiar, please contact me. I don’t judge or ridicule, I’ve been there and can be there for you too.